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My daughter, F, soon to be 3 years old, is a photographer. She sneaks mama’s camera and takes pictures of her surroundings all day long. Some are blurry and out of focus, and some are just spectacular. I honestly love looking through the camera at the end of the day to find a few new pictures that she took. Her perspective of our home is so sweet to me. She captures things I’m proud of (kid art on the walls, baby’s first steps, me reading aloud, sisters playing “tea”) and things I’m not so proud of (dust bunnies under the bed, messy refrigerator, mama on the computer -eek!- and the TV on during the day). Like it or not, her pictures are something special – they are her honest perspective of the world. Through her lens, I can see what childhood looks like to her.
This midweek, I’m taking a page out of her book and focusing my lens on the Big things in life…you know, the things that really matter. Things like building a snow fort in the back yard, cheering on the wobbling steps of little J, waiting anxiously for Daddy to get home. I’m honing in on the blue light of dusk casting shadows over the snow, streetlights making the world sparkle and the warmth of snuggling under fleece blankets between siblings. I want to revel in the clambering of little people into bed with Mom and Dad at the start of a long, lovely day of nothing much planned. I’m loving the clattering of dishes during dinner, voices singing silly songs altogether and the love the weaves us all together in this crazy amazing impossible thing called FAMILY. I’m enjoying this rich tapestry of a life, where learning and loving, working and playing all connect together.
And here I am, singing along while J rat a tat tats his pot and pan drums and I’m left wondering if it really does all come down to the velvety flour dusting the floor and my cheek while D cuts out the biscuits and together we push them in a warm oven. This is what happiness is. I’ve arrived.
Leave it to them to teach me so much about what really matters.
Enjoy those kids, if you have some, and if you don’t, try and look at life through the lens of a child. You’ll be glad you did.
Nothing really new to report on for WIP Wednesday…just plugging away at the same old projects, and starting to get a bit bored! I’m working mostly on my Anna Maria quilt though…and I’m thinking, wouldn’t it be nice to embroider the fruits of the Spirit in some of the squares? You know, just in case we need reminding….
1. A confused or disordered state or collection; a jumble”
One of the most effective ways to keep your life simple is to purge your home of clutter. People spend hours upon hours managing their “stuff,” and for what? Most of it is stuff we don’t even need or use! I want to spend my time and efforts on my family and my life, not on the care and keeping of the junk in my life. This kind of flies in the face of my thrifting obsession, but not really. I try to employ a “one bag in, one bag out” policy in those situations.
I found this great idea this morning, and although Lent has already begun, I think I may be able to catch up. My basement and closets desperately need to be purged. What a lovely way to ensure a clutter-free Easter! Just in time for a nice Spring Cleaning! I have 2 bags filled just from my linen closet!
One decluttering method that works very well for me is “puttering.” If you don’t putter around your house and actually look to see what areas need help, you will just continue to add to the pile and it will grow into an insurmountable problem. Puttering is my answer to that. First, I either turn on some music or call a friend/sister. This gives me something pleasurable to focus on while I putter around my home. Then I get started. Often the distraction is so helpful that I get off the phone or emerge from crooning along to my favorite songs to realize wow, I just cleaned this whole room and I don’t remember doing it. This may just be testimony to how 4 kids in 5 years makes you lose your mind, but I prefer to think of it as distraction working quite well, thank you. An example of puttering could be reorganizing your bathroom cupboard, decluttering your work desk, cleaning out your fridge or organizing a closet. I usually choose jobs that I seriously detest doing, not my usual daily cleaning tasks.
Living in a small home means we simply cannot hold on to every little thing we’ve ever owned or ever will own. That includes the clothes that our kids grow out of. For awhile I labeled and stored every item of clothing my children wore, but as our family grew, this became too much. I switched to saving only the things that were in perfect condition, but even this became too much to hang on to. The truth is, even if I did have a baby of the same gender as 0ne of the older children, there were no guarantees that the seasons would be correct anyway. I began handing off clothes to friends. So far things seem to find their way back, often mixed with outfits from other families as well, when a new baby warrants it. I’d rather have my kids clothes used by others than stored in a basement. It works well for us.
The best part of keeping your home clutter-free is how quickly you can clean your home, and how long it stays clean. I can usually tell when my children have too many clothes and too many toys by how messy their rooms are. Obviously they are children and are going to make messes, but if my daughter can throw 25 shirts on the floor in her quest for the perfect outfit, there is something wrong.
Here is a quick list of suggestions:
2 sets of sheets per bed. – this may not be necessity if you are single and tend to wash your sheets and put them right back on, but having kids can mean middle of the night messes. Its nice to not have to do laundry in the middle of the night!
2 towels/washclothes per person in the family.
Keep your kitchen counters clear of appliances. Keep only what you absolutely need and make sure each item has a “place” in the cabinet. (coffee makers may stay out).
File your papers/bills/bank statements weekly to cut down on surface clutter.
Employ “A place for everything and everything in its place.”
Try to have “only” 1 junk drawer.
If you have a spouse who is prone to setting his/her random clutter all over your house, get a few baskets and set them around. That way it doesn’t look so awful, and you can quickly grab the basket and put the things away when you get a chance.
Recycle, yet, but don’t be afraid to throw things out. Socks with holes? Toss. Old toothbrushes? Toss. Some of these may be a given, but if you are like me and really don’t like throwing away something that might be useful, it can be hard to figure out what to do.
As an organizational/large family thing, I like to have certain items in gender-neutral tones to cut down on what we have to have on hand. Mittens in multiple sizes, snow boots, hoodies, etc., I prefer ones that are red, navy or grey so everyone is willing to wear them.
This post is entirely too long. Please feel free to post any additional tips!
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There are loads and loads of laundry to be washed, bathrooms that really could use a good cleaning, beds that need to be made and a glorious pile of dress up clothes that threatens to swallow us all if not sorted through soon. There is dinner to be thought of and made, kitchen floor in need of mopping, toys scattered hither and yon and art supplies from the ceiling to the basement.
Weekends are for making babies laugh, letting kids fingerpaint, cheering on Mario Kart championships, braiding hair, singing songs, reading poems, watching the snow melt, eating cookies, writing letters, embroidery, holding close, slowing down, laying in a sunspot, watching Spring unfurl, visiting Grandma and gathering up the moments in a big bouquet of happiness. You know, the important things.
Its easy for me to be distracted by the work of life and forget to embrace the messy chaos of every day miracles. Today I’m focusing on what matters.
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I’ve never bought a new piece of furniture.
Let me re-phrase that:
I have never bought a new piece of furniture.
Everything we have was either gifted or thrifted. That also extends to the art on our walls. Additionally, I’ve never spent more than $100 on a piece of furniture.
Being a mom of several very small children with a tendency to run around in the backyard barefoot and then come in and rub their feet all over the furniture, spending large quantities of money on furniture (or even going into debt for furniture) would be nothing short of madness. Spending little on furniture means replacing things can happen more frequently. I want to be someone who puts people before things, and I want my children to be able to enjoy our home – without costing me a ton of money in ruining expensive furniture! We have had 3 different couches since we’ve moved in and we have been in this house only 4 years. Don’t think we just set them by the side of the road – we often sell them for the same price as our “new” furniture, meaning that an upgrade and a fresh start with a new couch is, get this, FREE.
Additionally, its recycling. And recycling is a good thing!
Don’t think you have to sacrifice quality when buying second hand. Often you are able to buy higher quality items than you’d be able to if purchasing them new. Case in point, my 2 Ethan Allen chairs that I love so much. These chairs originally sold for around $600 each. I brought them home for $75…for the pair.
Its important to go out and look, but only buy something if you absolutely love it or need it. Often I’ll be on the market for an upgrade in something but it will take me a month or so to find something that I want to purchase. Take your time.
Where do I find deals?
Thrift Stores – Salvation Army, Goodwill, etc.
http://www.craigslist.com – find a classifieds in your area. Check it frequently. I also sell my items on this site when I am finished with them.
Kiwanis – in a neighboring town, we have a weekly Kiwanis sale. You can usually barter here quite easily and find some nice things. Our current couch and my E A chairs were purchased here. They also have lamps, art, pretty much anything.
Frugal, earth friendly, simple, frequent upgrades. What’s not to like?
Do you ever have the moment of panic, thinking “my kids are growing up so fast. Are they having a fun life? Are they enjoying life to the fullest? What are they going to remember most from childhood?” I have those moments from time to time. When the panic hits, its helpful for me to reflect on my own childhood, one that, from my perspective, was the most fun a child could have. The things I remember and treasure are not necessarily the things that cost a lot of money. I have a few hazy memories from the week spent in Florida when I was five, the beach vacation to Myrtle Beach when I was twelve and the handful of movies my parents took us to. What I remember most are the traditions my family had, some more frequent than others. Those are what hold the deepest and dearest memories for me. Spending summers camping in Canada, the image of my mom washing dishes in that big green bowl with a baby in the backpack. My dad making pancakes on a Saturday morning, just for fun. Sweaty summer evenings racing through the neighborhood on my bike with my friends, singing at the top of my lungs. More recently, my dearest moments are summer cookouts with my family, an afternoon spent at the park with the kids, “family breakfast” on our midweek mornings. Kids and adults too really thrive on traditions, even just the daily routines of life. They’ll remember most the dishcloth swinging from Dad’s waist as he flips bacon on the skillet, and mom singing “Princess songs” while brushing the little girls’ hair. Childhood does not have to be a series of expensive activities or events. Sometimes regular life makes the best memories of all.
Its WIP Wednesday! My favorite blogging day of the week. This is where I show off some of my Works in Progress. Due to randomly making that pillow with my girls on Sunday night and waiting for some more fabric to come before putting together our patchwork quilt, I don’t have very many WIPs this week. That being said, I do have a very special WIP – possibly the longest standing WIP ever.
D’s birthday dress. I’m losing steam on this project, I’m in the skirt section which is SO BORING until you get to the lacework at the bottom. Luckily I have over a month til its “due” so I can take my time.
Now for the ultimate WIP – I began this sampler when I was 8 years old. I found it in my parents basement and brought it home. Now I’m not sure what to do…finish where my 8 year old self left off, or leave it unfinished? It needs to be ironed. I’m thinking of framing it. My mom has a sampler (much more fabulous) that my Grandma made when she was a young girl. It is one of my favorite things in my mother’s house.
We visited the Thrift Store again yesterday, just for a bit of an outing. I rescued a pretty JCrew button down with a spring-y floral print (not pictured) and a basket to keep all Husband’s odds and ends in (better than leaving them around the house!). We also found these:
That’s it from me for today. Have a blessed Midweek with your family!
I can tell that my little one is feeling a bit under the weather, and if attitude is any indicator, my toddler is about to succumb as well. I’m looking forward to slowing down for a few days, snuggling in and doing nothing but reading Little House books and holding my babies tight. I know that my life already seems a lot slower than others, but I tend to get ahead of myself and not take time to rest and renew with my little people. Before I retreat to my cave of midwinter mommy-ing, I thought I’d share a few pictures from the last few days…
My girls and I made this out of scraps from the fabric for our quilt. It only took about an hour, we didn’t measure anything…just let it be perfectly imperfect. I love it. The best part was letting the girls pick the order of the fabrics and holding little F on my lap while sewing it on the machine.
I’m generally a “can do” person. I see things others do an I think “hmmmm I bet I could do that!” I credit my Mom with this positive attitude and outlook on life. It has come to my aid many times over the years and helped me to excel at things (with the necessary dosage of elbow grease, of course). However, in one area I think I may need to admit defeat. Here is my confession:
I can not for the life of me make a cake. Believe me, I’ve tried! I love to bake and to work around the kitchen, and generally I am a pretty good cook. When it comes to cakes, I don’t know what happens. They almost always stick to my nonstick pans, despite me greasing them up an/or using parchment paper. After that they begin a slow crumble while I feverishly work to get them assembled. Then they further crumble while I try to frost them, little bits of crumbs mixing with the frosting to decorate the cake. UGH. I had such a horrific cake wreck last year on my husbands birthday that I called my cousin in tears, telling her I wasn’t sure what message my dilapidated mess would convey to my dear husband (“you WRECKED my life”? “I think you are a disaster”? Too horrible to think!). I jokingly told her I wasn’t sure my marriage would survive such a disaster of a cake. She came to my rescue with strawberries and whipped cream to hide what was now 2 halves of a cake. I should have taken a picture. If my skills weren’t so pathetic and sad, it would almost be funny. So now, of course, it is Valentines Day, and its been just long enough since my last cake wreck that I was feeling stupidly confident. “Lets make a cake and surprise Daddy!” I wish I could surprise him with a beautiful Valentines cake. As it is, we may have just enough time to cut out paper hearts to stick all over it to disguise the monstrosity that lies underneath. I will continue to live in fear of baking cakes, asking my relatives to bake birthday cakes for my kids, or even ordering them from a bakery! Admitting defeat. One thing I simply cannot do: Bake a cake.
Happy Valentine’s Day!
We’ve had a few wild and crazy days (emphasis on the crazy!). February is indeed here, with all of its lovely cabin-fever charm. It has definitely been a challenge to keep the kids directed towards meaningful pursuits and away from using one another as entertainment. I have to say I am incredibly thankful for the SNOW we had this week – it has proved to be a hot commodity with my children, a happy diversion. Today alone they have been out at least 5 times each, coming in to warm up for a bit before heading out again. I know I say this a lot, but my heart longs for Spring!
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I’ve had this post bouncing around in my head for some time. I’ve been asked more times than I can count how we manage to live our lives on one modest income with 4 children. My thoughts have been going around and around and I realized that it all really comes down to simplicity. I can get specific about some things, but in general, simplicity sums it all up.
For my family, living a simple life fosters close family relationships while also allowing us to live sustainably.
In this instant gratification, gotta have it, fast paced world of bursting credit bubbles and housing market collapses, it is no wonder that many have looked at what I manage to do and say “how does that even work?” I do not purport to have the corner on how to make it work, and certainly a large part of why it works for us is because we have been blessed in many ways.
I say it comes down to simple, intentional living. Identifying the true differences between “needs” and “wants,” being grateful for what you do have and willing to compromise on the things you do not necessarily need. I am not saying to live a life with no comforts at all, that is not my point, but to really take stock of what we believe to be necessary, beneficial and required for our lives.
This often begins with how we were raised. I was so blessed to be raised in a family where my mother was dedicated to living a simple, frugal lifestyle. Through my childhood, my observations of her helped shape my view on how to run a home. She is still much more frugal than I am and I still stand to learn quite a bit from her. Taking a good look at where we came from and what were considered necessities in our homes really does help us understand how we came to the mindset we have on what constitutes “the good life,” and is imperative to the next few steps.
Simplifying and “slowing” often go hand in hand. For example, one of the ways we live slowly is by owning one car. This requires me to “slow down” and cut down unnecessary trips outside the home. It helps me to focus on my home life with my children while also saving us money that would have been spent if I were to go out every day. Slowing down can also mean waiting to make a purchase until you have the funding for it. Paying yourself slowly until the money is there may take a little bit longer, but you will be so happy to actually own what you bought! Slowing is hard for a lot of people because it is living in direct conflict with our current cultural norms.
Over the next few weeks I’ll touch on how simplicity comes into play in all areas of our lives – from raising the kids and educational materials to cooking, homemaking and beyond. If you have any questions you’d especially like me to address, ask away!